I've been contemplating our upcoming "milestone" wedding anniversary (April 1, 2015, in case you care) and what advice, if asked, I'd give to any couple contemplating marriage. After some consideration, I realize I'd give the same advice to any couple contemplating divorce.
First, I'd tell them a little story about Ivaan and me:
The morning of our wedding day, Ivaan announced he was going to work. That seemed a little over-zealous, since he was self employed, but he assured me he'd be back in plenty of time. So off he went, and I busied myself getting my hair and make-up done. He arrived home in plenty of time. I expected he'd go upstairs and put on a suit, but he said, no, he was planning on being married in the clothes he was wearing: black trousers and shirt, his black leather jacket and a black and white scarf. A number of thoughts raced through my mind, the most prominent among them being, "If you don't put on a suit, we're not getting married". Then I looked at his face. He looked terrified.
So instead, I asked myself, "Look, do you want to be right, or do you want to be happy?"
I chose happy, and I said, with as much equanimity as I could muster, "All right, then, let's go". And we did. An hour later, we were husband and wife.
"Never Choose Right. Always Choose Happy."
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